Wednesday, December 31, 2008
The Good Brother
Our oldest son has some concerns about our families decision to adopt from Ethiopia. He has fears that it will feel like company is visiting. Not like they are all brothers and sisters.

I am sure this fear is not unlike that of many adoptive parents who ask themselves if they can really love a child they did not give birth to as much as one they did.

I am blessed to not have this particular fear, though I do wrestle with others.

I am praying for a way to take our two oldest with us to Ethiopia. I believe once they are there and see all those kids, meet them, form relationships, the fears will go away. They will understand.

Even if a way is not made available for them to go I know that oldest will still be a great big brother to his new siblings. Once he holds them in his arms it will be all over. His fears will be gone.

I believe this peace was given to me by God.

Before we adopted I prayed hard about the effect this decision would have on ALL of our children. God gave me peace then that all would be OK.

Zach is a good big brother.

Here he is helping Paige make sand castles in her sand box.

He helped her make a little river around her castle.
Then he discovered me taking pictures and put his head down.

The kid hates to have his picture taken.

I predict next year at this time there will be a few more kids in the sandbox enjoying the attention of their big brother.
The big brother just doesn't understand that part of it yet.

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  posted at 3:20 PM  

At 8:24 AM, Blogger holly said...

I would think it could feel weird for awhile, but they will soon feel like they belong. The awkwardness is a given, but kids are awesome...they adapt so quickly in any situation. It will all be fine.

Oh, and did you catch my mention about the other lady who adopted a little girl from ethiopia?


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