Dave had been named the All Star manager at the Sunday morning meeting. The hysterical wife of the other candidate, we will call her Rose, had stormed out of the room and headed off to church where she was to sing in the choir that morning.
By all accounts she composed herself enough to sing through two services. However, after church, while heading towards her car she ran into some friends from the baseball field. One of whom is our league's ex-president and a very good friend of our families.
This is how the conversation went. Remember this is all in the open area outside of church while people are leaving services.
Rose: Do you know what that Bleepin board of directors did? They chose Dave as the All-Star manager over a "Smith". (name changed, and yes she is using the F word)
ex-pres: OK, calm down.
Rose: Can you believe what they have done to our family those bleeping people. They have ruined our lives.
ex-pres: Trying to get a word in, but can't, notices that EVERYONE is looking at this crazy insane lady who is throwing the F word around like it is nothing at all.
Ex-presidents son decides to take some action and tells Rose that he is taking her son over to the playground so he doesn't have to listen to this.
Rose immediately says no, that he should hear this. She takes her hands and places them around his face and says "Look at this face, this poor boy who has been robbed of having his father as his all star manager".
Ex-president finally gets fed up and asks this question.
What about Garrett?
Ex-pres: You know, Dave's son Garrett. How would he feel if his Dad wasn't his manager?
Rose: Um, well, um, well.....I don't know.
By all accounts her ranting and raving went on for a good 20 minutes with this poor family trying to calm her down and others watching from a distance wondering if they should intervene.
Do you think that this particular person was putting a little to much emphasis on baseball in her life? Had a few boundaries been crossed here?
Whoever of you loves life and desires to see many good
keep your tongue from evil and your lips from
Turn from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue
As she ranted and raved she said some very ugly things about my husband and I. Things that no one has told us about. Things that are just to nasty to repeat. She continued to say that we hated their family and she just didn't understand why.
I have had one conversation with Rose where I was even remotely mean. If you could call it that.
You see, their team always prayed on the field before every game. Many thought this was so nice. Inwardly, it made me cringe. In my humble opinion, if you are going to put your faith out there like that you better make darn sure your actions during the game are representing Christ in a positive way.
No one ever wanted to play their team. They were always obnoxious. Sore winners and losers.
After one game where they lost (of course, because of bad umpire calls) I heard her using some language that did not match up with the Christian faith. I couldn't help myself and I walked up to her and asked this question....
"Is that any way for a daughter of the King to act"?
She looked at me repentantly and walked away.
She obviously knew she was not acting appropriately.
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is
wise. Proverbs 10
While all this drama and inappropriateness was going on at the church down the street my husband headed over to Rose's husbands place of business to speak with him.
As he walked up he knew that Rose had already informed her husband of the Boards decision by the look on Pete's face (name changed).
They had a very nice conversation where Dave told him he would really like it if Pete would be one of his coaches. He thought that their two styles could compliment each other and he would like to have him involved with the team.
My thought about this was "keep your friends close, your enemies closer".
However, my husband is a much nicer person than I am. Even after all the mean things said about him he understood how this other Dad was feeling. He was trying to be the better person.
Pete agreed to help and thanked Dave for asking him. Something that I am 100% certain would not have happened if the shoe had been on the other foot.
The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to
A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man
overlooks an insult.
A truthful witness gives honest
testimony, but a false witness tells lies.
pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings
Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue
lasts only a moment.
There is deceit in the hearts of those who
plot evil, but joy for those who promote peace.
befalls the righteous, but the wicked have their fill of
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in
men who are truthful.
The next night we had All-Star try outs up at the baseball fields. Hundreds of boys and girls nervously waiting for their turn to show off their talent and get one of the coveted spots on the 9/10 All Star team. The team my husband would be putting together. The final decision was his.
I felt for these kids that night. As I walked up the sidewalk towards the fields and felt every eye on me my stomach was feeling a little nervous too. I was wondering how many of these families had witnessed and/or heard about Rose's freak out at the board meeting and at the Church?
I really just wanted to go and hide under a rock. I had to keep reminding myself that I had done nothing wrong. Hold your head up high and smile I told myself. I did, and everyone smiled back. People began coming over and giving me big hugs and whispering words of encouragement in my ear.
Well, that answered that question, it seemed that EVERYONE knew what had happened.
As I stood by the railing watching the kids on the field several friends came over and stood on either side of me.
Don't worry, they said, we are here to protect you. We aren't going to let anything happen to you. Mr. Bennett is here (he's a police officer) and he knows what happened. We will stand here with you in case Rose shows up with a knife or something.
Julie, I don't think you fully understand how out of control and angry she is.
Just then, I see Rose walking up the sidewalk towards the field and me. My heart starts to beat frantically and I think to myself "I am really not in the mood for this".
to be continued